"To keep your marriage brimming,
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you're wrong, admit it;
Whenever you're right, shut up."
~ Ogden Nash

"The ache for home lives in all of us,
the safe place where we can go as we are
and not be questioned."
~ Maya Angelou

"Let us make a special effort
to stop communicating with each other,
so we can have some conversation."
~ Mark Twain

"If you wish to travel far and fast, travel light.
Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness and fears."
~Cesare Pavese

"Better than any argument is to rise at dawn
and pick dew-wet red berries in a cup."
~ Wendell Berry

"We can only learn to love by loving."
~ Iris Murdoch

"Happiness is not a matter of intensity
but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony."
~ Thomas Merton

Couples Therapy

  • Would you like help creating a positive vision of your relationship/marriage?
  • Would you like to develop greater intimacy?
  • Are you seeking ways to build trust, safety, and tenderness?
  • Would you like to share with your partner/spouse your fears, doubts, hopes, wishes, and desires?
  • Would you like to have more constructive conversations and easier communication?
  • Can you use guidance to heal from past hurts, betrayal, and disappointments?
  •  Do you want to move from a reactive relationship to a responsive one?
  • Are you seeking help to find greater compassion, tolerance, kindness, and patience?
  • Has conflict avoidance caught up with you in your relationship?
  • Would you like to celebrate your differences?
  • Do you feel that you and your partner are growing apart?
  • Do you need help learning how to “fight” constructively and resolve conflict?
  • Are role conflicts with work, family, and self-care overwhelming in your couple relationship?
  •  Would you like to find greater balance, playfulness, laughter, and joy?

Couples seek help at different stages in their relationships.  Perhaps you are thinking about getting married and anticipate some roadblocks down the road which could be mediated by a compassionate and neutral person.  Or you may encounter a crisis which threatens the stability of your relationship/marriage.   Research suggests that the average couple is unhappy for 6 years before deciding to seek help. Relationships can become stuck, stale, or “joyless without the attention it deserves.

When relationships are going through tough times, it can be hard to listen, and feel impossible to be heard.  Couples therapy gives partners the tools to communicate better, negotiate and honor differences, problem solve, deepen intimacy,  trust each other with vulnerabilities,  find greater spontaneity and flexibility, seek balance and joy,  and even argue in a healthier way.  When relationships have already moved toward separation and divorce, this painful and scary process can be navigated through couples therapy with compassionate guidance and support.

Whether you are:

  • Married
  • living together
  • dating
  • separated or divorced
  • same sex
  • interfaith
  • Interracial 
  • intercultural

couples therapy can help you navigate through periods of alienation, conflict and crisis, and find the capacity for more enriching intimate connections.